Where are you in all this?

Tear down the walls!  Deconstruct the language!  Wash away the thinking!  Exams are killing the young, sucking out their souls and mangling their senses until they are completely absorbed with their ‘future’ and the present has been sacrificed at the altar of arbitrary qualifications and random grades.  Joining the armies of the empty and the ranks of the frightened, your boys and girls stare from their lifeless eyes like fish on a slab, and are imprisoned in a world of make-believe.  Fairy-tale princesses glide by whilst their muscled young men loll contentedly like tom-cats ready to prowl out into the night of stark cold lights and drunken screams whilst the grass grows quietly through the relics of their dreams, leaving them like rusted limousines of lies.

Can you live in uncertainty?  Can you walk through a wood, over a moor, by the sea, by the river, along the trail of a mountain, through the dry, dusty desert, and the lush green valley, and not know where you are going?

What if there was a place in the world which said: you can do exams, but exams are not on the curriculum?  How can your child keep all her options open?  How can he keep up the pace of this global race, and how can she fulfill her potential… be happy?

He was really quite a small man, white hair swept defiantly over a shining nut brown dome of intelligence.  His eyes had the quality of depth and fullness that is not uncommon among many South Indians and the voice that seemed to join the wind still had that Asiatic feel.  He sat straight-backed, trembling hands gripping a white handkerchief….  A man may make statements, a man may ask questions, a man may challenge; but if all those that listen do is to stare in awe, wonder and reverence, then that it would have been better if that man had never lived.

What if there was a place in the world that was about learning about life; not just someone’s idea about life?  What if I, a man whose thinning white hair and stiffening joints, could engage with the vigour of youth, absorb the tears of young eyes, the smiles of laughing faces and listen to the passing of life in the understanding of an exploration which would not be fettered by fear and expectations, but revel in an ocean of possibilities.  Look at the hands of the maker, the planter, the painter and the poet; their fingers are at work, their bright eyes open; and their minds touching a stillness that has no possessor, no separation.

What if there was a place in the world where there was a sense of discovering together?  She would always touch the giant redwood when we passed; her long golden hair shrouding her face as she pressed against the soft trunk and her hands flattened as if gently communing through their touch.  She would say that it was like returning to an old friend, no need to explain the absence, just taking up where they left off.  The tree stands in a grove and is flanked by others that reach up to an extraordinary height; today it is dark with the rain and the branches drip amid the thickening gloom…its stillness reaches into her, an unbroken connection of wood, water, flesh, bone, blood and earth.

The seed is growing; the flowering may take a while in the presence of the dead weight of inertia and brittle certainty.  Courage is needed at every cautious, but steady step.  Nonetheless, the plight of the young cannot be left to their first faltering, clamorous demands, neither with the smooth, unctuous piety of those that exploit in the illusory game of success and failure.  It has to be with the rough-hewn, mistake-ridden, half-blinded adventurers who have seen a light shining dimly in the distance, and have some understanding that it is learning, a learning that cannot be measured.

And the killings go on.... last night the moon rose...

The killings go on, justified by men on television in their impenetrable grey/black funeral suits and carried out by men dressed as plastic action men dolls.  Flesh and bone torn apart to make room for ideas: there is nothing sacred about a life which does not agree with you, may threaten you, might defy you.  Sons, daughters, mothers, fathers, sisters brothers; indiscriminate lives, indiscriminate tears, lost smiles and all tenderness exposed as bloodied flesh in the explosion of bomb and bullet....

Last night the moon rose from the Albanian hills, a ghost of what it was to become.  As it gained form and substance it filled with an extraordinary gold/silver light, sending a pathway across the sea towards the tiny village on the coast of the island of Corfu.  Today the sunlight dances on the water against the background of the blue, misty hills and the pale early morning sky.  The beauty takes the breath away, not in some sentimental moment, but in the realisation this is the natural world of which all humanity is part.  It exists, untouched by human thought. 

This week has seen what human thought does at its most vicious: the attack on the Palestinians in Gaza and the shooting down of a civil aeroplane as it was flying over Ukraine.  Both these events have seen the violent deaths of innocent people caught up in the desperate fighting of other human beings, who appear not to care who they kill as long as their goal is achieved.  Elsewhere bombings and killings continue, the number of refugees rise and those who suffer most are women and children – the powerless.  As a species we seem to be addicted to violence, to the cruelty and greed that drives aggression.  We lack sensitivity and are dominated by fear, which leads us to seek security in ways that make us all much less secure.  We are divided by nation, by ideology, by religion; by the way we define ourselves; by the images we create and we use these divisions to give meaning to our lives, whilst we cut short the lives of others.  One wonders sometimes how we, who are so destructive, continue to live on this planet that contains so much beauty; and, if we continue as we are, it would seem likely that we will not survive much longer.

What can be done amid such apparent callousness and ignorance?  Can a new generation be brought into being where violence, anger and selfishness are not seen as the way to be? At the moment we live in a world of separation and we teach our children through this separation: humanity is separate from nature; I am separate from you.  So we compete instead of collaborate; we exploit instead of care; we are individuals standing out from the crowd – who we despise.  We compare so we might feel superior, but all too often we feel inferior.   The continuation of war takes place in our families, in our classrooms, in our entertainment, in our media and ultimately in ourselves.

Do we really want to live without war?  Are we prepared to face the reality of how we live; in conflict with ourselves and in conflict with others?  Or will we continue to wring our hands in horror at the photographs of bloodied, broken bodies?  Cry our tears of outraged hypocrisy at the carnage, call for revenge upon the perpetrators and carry on the madness that underpins our so-called sane society.

We have to look at what life is, without sentiment, without judgement, and observe exactly where our behaviour is leading us.  So come to understand what is happening, without justification and without condemnation.  And then that understanding leads to a change in behaviour, not through the creation of a new ideology or system, but through taking care of humanity through pure observation.  Taking care in the sense of learning what it means to be human in this world, not separated, but unified through our common consciousness.

This has tremendous implications as to how we bring up our children – this is where the road to sanity begins.

Feeling the Pressure?

Acceptance

The greying woman stands in the shallows, her shoes wet.

Waves play cold liquid games with her legs.  Clouds curl.

A fish swims up.  It wears her lover’s face.

When she awakens she puts the radio on.  Voices, cold light, no music.

She showers, chooses her clothes.  Imagines changing her hair.

Appearances almost matter.  Her car is clean.

In the classroom her face is caressed by an occasional sea breeze.

She stands at the board and remembers numbers and lines.

There is a boy with the face of a fish.  She carries on.

(Poem by our eldest son, Tom)        itstomalexander.blogspot.com.es

Pressure… pressure… pressure… pressure.  I must be motivated.  The click and grind and motion of the wheel in my head; the treadmill of the brain.  Cannot, must not stand still… must move on.

Success, success, success...  I must be inspired.  Please inspire me; inside I am empty.  Please fill me with your wise words, positive statements, your exhortations to achievement.  Without them I am nothing; another statistic in the data bank of human misery.  You tell me I am nothing and then you tell me to be something – thin, beautiful, clever.  And then you say: don’t talk so much; don’t be so silent.  So I cannot tell what you are thinking.

Anxiety… close cropped and bare as barbed-wire.  What is going to become of me?  You exhort me not be a failure and urge me to follow my passion. You talk to me of the global race and the part I have to play in it.  So I am looking for the finishing line and think about what will happen when I get there.  Will I then be spat out?  Chewed over and over until all outward form is lost?  Will I be digested then excreted in some unrecognisable form that once was me?  What do you think of me?  Do you like me?  If you don’t, then I won’t like you?

Entertain me!  Make me laugh, dance, and sing for you:  I can no longer do this on my own.  Absorb me in your cleverness, your silky long words like hypnotic snakes, and maybe, just maybe I could be like you.  Tell me what to do; don’t ask me questions; don’t make me think.  Reflection takes place in a darkening mirror, and these days the dark frightens me.  Comfort me.  I am frozen in time, like a mammoth in ice……….

But, I want to be alive!  For I am young and confusion is the state of all humanity.  I am young, and you, old man, what do you know?

You do not see me like you – you think we are separate.  You see my laughter as different from yours, my tears also.  But you are wrong, so wrong.  So stop transferring your pressure to me, old man.  You say you are dying, but tomorrow I also may not be here.

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Slowly the vast bird circles below us, seeking out the warm air in the cool of the Himalayan mountains.  Wings edged with finger-like feathers that are stretched, tentative and gentle.  The sound of villagers at work seeps up on the same currents that support the silent flight.  All is embraced in the beauty of these mountains.

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Don’t tell me what to do!  Look at what you’re doing; look at what you have done: the poverty, destruction, pollution, violence and, above all, the separation.  You continue to force me to think of myself as being distinct from others, from the air we breathe, from the food we eat, and from the stranger in the street.

So don’t pressure me with your exams, your hypocritical praise, your damning condemnation and your pathetic view of the world.  Just listen, look and be still for one moment.  Then, without pressure, we might be able to explore together this thing we call life.

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The sun is warm with thoughts of the blistering hot summers that submerge this old Spanish city, and the breeze is heavy with the scent of orange blossom.  Down on the south coast, over the border in Portugal the sea rises and falls in a constant sequence of silky turquoise movement.  Back in England young leaves form against the background of delicate blossoms, whose petals loosened by the wind, fall to the ground in a covering of white and pink.

A Letter to my Young, and not so Young, Friends: there is a revolution going on.

From the snow capped mountains I walk across the brown-green fells of the Lake District, up past the noisy waterfall to the placid tarn – a place of mirrors and reflections…  As the logs crackle in the fire and sparks explode when they are moved, thoughts move from past, to present, to future….  Is it possible to live without conflict?

What of my young friends?  I wonder if I might call you friends; you who have been the students with whom I have shared my life during the past three decades and more; despite the pressure to control, to manage and make demands, maybe there was some sense of affection.   And what of the students who, in two day’s time, will return to the school community of which I am now part?  In this environment, pressure, control and authority are the subjects of questioning, and affection is seen as an essential element in living.  My young life, like many others of my generation and background, was almost completely devoid of affection – it was not part of the education, an education that was specifically designed to produce rulers of the world!  I have learnt affection through my relationship with my wife, my children, through friendship and through nature.

 I watch the light on the snow as we drive away from our week of reflection and activity together.  Fresh snow has fallen in the night, whilst coming as heavy rain into the valleys.  Even from this distance the newness of the snow creates a cleansing effect on the mind and, for a fleeting moment, there is a sense that this mind soars like an eagle, hovers over those softened sharp rocks and gazes down on this magnificent scene.

Our own children are caught in the conflict between the creative and the mundane.  And, as a family we sit by the fire of a house we have now deserted, consider and explore together the need to earn money to exist, whilst maintaining vital involvement in writing, music and art which give our lives meaning.  Our sons still hold on to their profound interests whilst all the time they are under siege from the world of exploitation, aspiration and conformity.

So, my friends, as it is the beginning of a new year and I have had the birthday which takes my aging, hesitant steps further into my seventh decade, may I ask your permission to participate in your revolution?   I know it is going on.  I have seen it in the eyes of the young and not so young in many places of the world.  I have seen it in the faces of the children who refuse to be coerced, to fit in despite the weight of the adult world that in its stupidity and arrogance thinks it knows how we all should live.  I saw it a few days ago in as I was sitting on a rock by a lake eating my lunch after a walk that took me past that noisy, tumbling waterfall.  I saw it in the smiles of the two children feeding the ducks and laughing as their big, black dog plunged in to deprive the birds of their food.  I heard it in the call and laughter of their mother and the accompanying laughter of strangers.  I see it in my grandson in his second year of school, who loves learning; and my other grandson, who is in his third year of life and loves living.

Will you let me join you in negating a world that supports violence; that accepts people being driven out of their homes in Syria, Sudan and many other places in the world?   I will question with you the values in life that put the earning of money and owning of things as more important than treating the earth and all it contains with care and affection.  And, as I move with that sureness of step which unites us all in death, I will give you what little insight and understanding I have to contribute to the conversation that feeds your revolution.  But I will not hate; I will not lead, for that implies followers and then you have already joined the deadly game; I will not specialise in exams, academic theories or intellectual speculation; above all I will not be part of a movement!

A friend in India once called Maggie and me, ‘nomadic cross-pollinators’, as we travelled around the country having discussions with many people and observing the different work that was being done to alleviate poverty, engage with social justice, tackle environmental degradation and bring about a transformation of human thinking.  It is possible that this is what I can give to this process of revolution – for the revolution is not like any other that has gone before it.  There may be enemies, but there is no blueprint or dominant ideology; there is urgency, but that urgency consists of moving slowly and carefully for there are many traps; and above all there is no separation, because it is that very process of fragmentation that has brought us to the necessity of the revolution.

Perhaps we can talk about this?